What is “toxic love”?
Toxic love is a relationship that is characterized by behaviors that are not beneficial for both members of the relationship.
For example, if criticism is the main form of communication, this weakens the relationship.
If one person is obsessed with the relationship and doesn’t have much outside of the relationship to interest them, this can also be a problem. The aim is to strengthen both members of the relationship and to help them grow and develop as a person. Being too clingy, can be a sign of low self-esteem.
You may have seen movies like “Fatal Attraction” which shows what happens when love is combined with obsession.
How can you rectify your relationship issues?
Clear honest communication can really help. Listening – really listening – not half-listening and half-looking at your phone. These are key to developing a strong and satisfying relationship.
Your relationship is only part of your life. You have to make sure that you have interests of your own and that you also find fulfilment from relationships with friends and family.
Jealousy can also undermine a relationship. Trust is important. It is also part of giving your partner the respect and independence they deserve.
But this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t reserve some time to be with each other. Loving actions are what makes the heart grow.
Sometimes bad habits can develop and selfishness can become established. You have to realize that it takes some effort to maintain and grow a relationship. It won’t flourish if all you do is sit on the couch.
It’s important to display affection towards your partner and to allow time for intimacy.
If you have trouble communicating or with jealousy, intimacy and other issues, you might consider having some couples counseling or an intensive. Contact us to discuss this.