The expectations you put on your partner often affect the relationship. It is important to realize that happiness doesn’t come from your partner – happiness comes from yourself. And when you find some peace within yourself – you can then learn to live with someone else.
If you don’t feel good yourself, you are always going to find an issue with your partner or you will blame them. They are never going to live up to your expectations.
Did you really expect that your partner would cook, clean and care for your every need? Don’t you realize that slavery was outlawed years ago? Of course we all desire to have someone take care of us. And if we earn enough money, we can certainly pay for that to happen. Otherwise we have to take some personal responsibility for our own lives.
Sometimes it’s hard to be tolerant of someone’s success or lack of success, fading physical appearance, personal problems, health issues, loss or change or whatever. Some things are your partner’s issues and you need to learn tolerance of another person’s issues.
However, sometimes personal issues like a health problem or a mental health concern can affect the relationship not just the individual. And of course, sexual issues affect the relationship and need to be dealt with. But one of the main ground rules you have to have when embarking on this new relationship with each other is that there are to be no expectations.