No one deserves to be hit, no matter what the situation is. If you are in a relationship and your partner is hitting you, it is not normal and you need to get out of that relationship as soon as possible.
This applies whether your boyfriend is the one doing the hitting or your girlfriend is the abuser.
You may need to get therapy to cope with the trauma and stress this has caused you. And your ex-partner may need anger management training to help them to stop hitting people. Contact us to discuss this.
Psychological abuse can also be very damaging.
That is not to say that no one should ever be forgiven or that people can’t ever change. But it is best to end the relationship and then maybe later on when the abusing partner has gotten help and proved they have changed, then you may slowly start meeting with them again in public places with a few to maybe someday getting back together again. But you should always keep your own safety as the most important thing in your mind.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t be in a relationship with them, but they need healing and you need healing and you have to restart the relationship with new rules after the healing has taken place. Couples retreats / intensives like those that we run can be incredibly useful for this.
You have to reassess after you have both worked on yourselves whether you even want the relationship again.
Safety of body, mind and soul are primary even before considering continuing the relationship. Get help today. We are just part of the help you need. But you need to get help immediately. It is time for life to get better.
Even leaving your partner can be risky and this may cause them to feel even more anger towards you. Always remember that your life is more important than any possessions. Get a gang of friends and family to help you move out so that you don’t put yourself in harm’s way. You should also notify the nearby police that you are going to be moving your possessions and that you don’t feel safe.
This is an abusive relationship and it is not healthy for you to stay in it. You may be wondering if it is normal for my boyfriend to hit me or if there is something that I am doing wrong. The answer is no – there is nothing wrong with you.
But sometimes when people don’t take action, it can actually spur the abuser to hit again. It becomes a toxic cycle of incidents, followed by apologies, making up, relative calm and then the tension builds and they become violent again. Being violent can even become a habit.
Where can you get help?
There are many resources available to help you get out of the situation and keep yourself safe. You deserve a better life. You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit their website at https://www.thehotline.org/.
There is also the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1800-656-HOPE (1800-656-467) or visit their website at rainn.org. Remember, you are not alone and there is help available to get you out of this situation. You deserve to be in a healthy and safe relationship! Get help today!
So if you ever think “is it normal for my boyfriend (or girlfriend) to hit me”, you now know what action you need to take. Leave the relationship. And if you have a friend in this situation, encourage them to do the same.